"My Best Friend Is Making A Mistake With The Wrong Man, What Do I Do?"

Over twitter a woman asked what do you do when you know a friend is making a terrible mistake. In her case, her friend is moving in with her boyfriend that many suspect is gay. Her friend’s concern is she is committing to a relationship that will never work out but she feared saying anything would make her friend upset. I think women are in the predictiment all the time. Not necessarily with the gay boyfriend but what do you do when you see your friend making a mistake with the wrong man?

When most women think it’s best to keep your mouth closed and be there for your friend when they fall, I think it’s best to tell them how you feel. Now that doesn’t mean you should just come out there with “ I can’t stand your man, you deserve so much better” but when the opportunity arises, just ask her if she is sure about the relationship. Let her know you’ll always be there for her regardless of her situation and if she’s truly happy you’ll support her 100%. I think a lot of times we are in denial and we just need to confirmation from someone else to see the truth. Sure, your friend could be upset, but I think it’s a greater gift to know that your friend will always tell you the truth. 

It’s true, most of the time we need to make our own mistakes. Someone telling you what you need to do is completely different from making the decision on your own. But I think there is away to tell your friend what you think while allowing her the freedom and space to do what she wants to do.

But more importantly, the real question is, do you just don’t like him or is he really bad for her?  I think we have to distinguish not liking our friend’s boyfriend from our girlfriend’s happiness. Just because we can’t stand him doesn’t mean she’s not happy or in a bad relationship. Our opinions are just that, opinions. At the end of the day we might be close friends but that doesn’t mean we have the same taste when it comes to men. If you are able to determine your discomfort with her man to really being about her well being, then I think you have to tell her in the most supportive way. She might be mad but she will always know you are looking out for what’s best for her.

What do you think? Keep your mouth closed or tell your girl how you feel?