5 RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES NEVER TO REPEAT

I know it might be hard to believe but yes, I’ve made some mistakes in my life. I’ve done some stupid things that are hard to forget. Decisions so memorable they are even harder to repeat. That’s the great thing about a new relationship. The opportunity to start over with a clean slate. These are the moments to be thankful for your ex boyfriend – thankful to mess things up with the wrong guy so you can get it right with the next guy.

#1 NEVER ASK “WHAT ARE WE”?

In every relationship is the moment when you move from casual into something serious. But that shift should be evident to both of you. If it happens for you and you’re wondering if it is happening for him- I can answer that for you- it’s not. See, “what are we” shouldn’t be a question. Sure, it should never be assumed but if you have no idea where your wanna be boyfriend is with you then I’m afraid you two are not in the same place.

#2 EVEN IF IT’S OPEN – DON’T EVEN THINK OF LOOKING

Everyone’s got a past. Everyone’s got some stuff you don’t need to know. This goes for men and women. So it you are looking for information you don’t know...you’re going to find it. Even if his blackberry is sitting there or his facebook account is open on his desktop. DON’T LOOK!! I’m telling you; it’s only going to end up bad, bad, bad. Even if you don’t necessarily find anything. You’re always going to wonder and now snooping has become an easy option. Once you start, it’s hard to ever stop- and trust is forever out the window. In most cases when you got issues and you wish you knew more? What you already know is always just enough.

#3 NEVER ASK FOR A KEY

I had to learn this lesson the hard way. We had been dating for 6 months and were serious. It was his birthday and a friend from out of town wanted to surprise him. So the idea was to get inside his place when he wasn’t there. I didn’t even think twice that getting a key could be a problem. We’ve met each other’s families, exchanged “ I love yous”, met friends, etc. There was nothing for me to worry about. So I handed him a copy of my key and asked for his. He froze. And then began to stutter. He needed to have a conversation about “what exchanging the key’s meant”. Huh? I was at his place multiple times a week and had been there for hours when he wasn’t around yet the key was still not that easy for him to give up. Men are just sensitive and controlling about “their space”. Even when it doesn’t make any sense. In most cases, he probably thought about it and is on his way to give it to you but a man can’t be rushed to be anywhere he’s not ready to be. They have to hand over the key when they are ready. Even if it’s after you.

#4 NEVER SAY I LOVE YOU BEFORE 30 DAYS            

Sure this might seem simple and obvious but I had to learn this one a couple of times. No matter how good it feels or how great he is, never say “I love you” too early. Even if he is feeling the same way. See, after a month or even two months his “representative” is still around and so is yours. You got to see if that “love you” is still easy to say when they piss you the hell off. Saying I love you before even really knowing each other only means you’re caught up and not thinking right. Its not that I don’t think you can really fall in love with someone quickly, I just know it takes a lot more time to know if it’s real.

#5 DINNER AND A MOVIE? RELATIONSHIP IS OVER BEFORE IT BEGAN

If a guy wants to take you out to a dinner and a movie as a first date, he’s either not that interested or just damn boring. Either way, he’s not someone worth dating. Using the standard format of dating you used in high school only means he didn’t put too much thought into taking you out. He’s just going through the motions. You’re either already labeled a rebound or he’s doing someone a favor. The same goes for a lunch date. Sorry ladies, it’s a sure sign he’s not that excited and who wants to spend time with someone who’s not excited about spending time with you? PASS

# 5.2 DON'T RETURN GOOD JEWELRY 

This one is a special one because it has to do with the end of a relationship. If a man has given you nice expensive jewelry during your relationship, DON'T RETURN IT! No matter how mad you are or how much the jewelry reminds you of everything that went wrong, tuck it away or give it to a friend. There will be a day when the emotion is no longer there and it will become just a beautiful piece of jewelry. Every woman deserves beautiful jewelry even if it's from an ex boyfriend. Damn... I miss that necklace. 

Sure there are exceptions to every rule but all 5 mistakes I know will keep me out of trouble and heartbreak. What are your never to return to mistakes? What are the relationship no no’s you are guaranteed to never repeat?