Come on Elin.... NO IDEA?

Elin Nordegren, Tiger’s newly ex wife, told People Magazine that she had no idea that he was cheating on her. To find out about one affair was a complete shock, let alone many.  But I have a really hard time believing this statement - Can a woman really have NO IDEA that her man is cheating on her?

As a woman that has been cheated on, I don’t believe that you never have any idea. I believe we always know something is wrong we just choose to believe what we want. No one wants to believe their boyfriend/husband can easily cheat on them therefore when the first red flag shows up we more than often give it a pass. We try to remain rational… “He does have a faulty phone battery” or “He says they are just friends”. We don’t want to be the jealous girlfriend so we take our fear, put it to the side and do what any good perfect wonderful woman would do- trust her man. And then something goes wrong again. This time it’s an email or a phone call in the middle of the night. It’s something bigger then the first that even your girlfriends are looking at you sideways. But regardless of the evidence, no one wants to believe that the man laying up next to them, holding their hand, looking into your eyes would literally lie so eloquently and effortless to your face.

But Ladies, even in every episode of denial, we always know the truth. There is no doubt that we as women have a real true sense of intuition. Our intuition always shows up,  even when we don’t want it to. Tiger didn’t cheat with one woman. He cheated with so many that there are multiple reports of the true number. There are rumors of him even fathering a couple children. To be that busy, he would have to have a couple nights of not picking up the phone or evenings where  he was one place and showed up at another. Honestly, for how bad he screwed up, I don’t believe he was that good at covering his tracks that his cheating was undetectable. Plus, I swear men always act different after they’ve spent considerable time with another woman. Patterns change, sex drives alter. When another woman enters your relationship, it’s just never the same.

I’m sorry Elin, if it’s cheating, lying or even the fact that the relationship is not working, we always know. We might spend years in denial or fight to make it right but at the bottom of our hearts under all the crap lies the truth.  I am not insinuating that Elin is lying but I don’t believe she is being a 100% truthful. She’s not remembering that small moment where that little voice told her something aint right.

Later in the interview Elin goes on to say that “a marriage without trust and love wasn’t good for anyone”. I throw an imaginary high five her way for having the courage and strength to stand up for the relationship she wants and deserves.