Black Women, do we really care what Slim Thug thinks of us?
It’s interesting how much hype he’s been getting over the last couple days but were we ever really interested what came out of his mouth? And why are we surprised? Not only does he call himself a skinny criminal, his website is URL is www.immahogg.com. Are we really interested in the thoughts of a man that calls himself a criminal and an animal known for eating their own young at the same time?
With everyone discussing his “Black Women Need To Be Down For Their Man More” comments I wonder how many people actually read the full blog. Honestly, it’s really not that bad. I can’t believe I am writing this but Mr. Slim Thug isn’t too off. He states that it’s his opinion (yes, rappers do have them) and he’s even objective enough to use words like “most” and “sometimes”. On some level he’s aware that his thoughts don’t blanket all Black women. The truth is, how many of us are really checking for Slim Thug? Is he really our ideal man? Honestly, as much as Marc Lamont Hill is upset and other bloggers are jumping all over him, the man has an opinion. Maybe not necessarily one that I agree with but he’s a man who goes by the name Slim Thug proudly. Are we really going to view the world similar?
The one thing that I am really intrigued about is what the hell does his Black/White intelligent girlfriend from Columbia think? What Slim Thug doesn’t seem to realize is in the year 2010, the modern day Black woman is a hybrid of many things. We listen to Kings Of Leon just as much as Jay Z. You might find us at the club, wine bar, or a local antique stop all in the same weekend. There are many parts of us therefore, it’s no longer fair to say all of us approach relationships the same. As a upper middle class black woman who grew up in a white neighborhood, I’m sure Fantasia and I are two damn different people when we deal with our man. But at the same time, there is a cultural difference and understanding that we undoubtedly share. Race is a slippery slope. Sure we're both Black but our social economic backgrounds, education and regional upbringing has a lot to do with why we do what we do. So Slim Thug, realize that your black/white-educated girlfriend might cook for you because she wants to, not because her white mother told her that’s how you keep a man.
Now what everyone has seemed to ignore is Mr. Slim Thug (why do I laugh every time I write his name?) started his blog with “The way Black people think in general is messed up. Both men and women need to change their way of thinking”. He owns up to the fact that the problem with Black relationships is a Black man and woman issue. Black women (and I talking to myself), we have to stop facing the criticism with so much defense. There is some piece of ownership we need to take on the issue. Again, I don’t think you can blanket all black women with the same relationship issues but we all are individually responsible for the lives that we live. If dating is not easy for you, there might be a clear reason for it.
At the end of the day, what Slim Thug thinks about me really doesn’t matter because the man doesn’t know me. The only question I have is:
Why are we willing to take advice from Steve Harvey and Hill Harper but not Mr. Slim Thugga Thugga? If you break down the ignorant banter, aren’t they essentially coming from the same school? Through a suit on him, and give him a Webster dictionary his advice to change our expectations and expect less from men make sense.
But at the end of the day, isn’t the only authority in your dating life you?
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